Self-Confidence

How self-confident are you? How do you know? What has contributed to giving you the self-confidence you have? How does it show up or not show up?

Lack of self-confidence in the work place is real. It can hold us back and keep us from being at our best. In one way, doubting our own ability to overcome challenges can propel us forward to learn a little extra, to try a little harder and to give something our utmost. As long as the worry, doesn’t go beyond a healthy level or hold us back from living up to our own potential.

There are many who could boost their self-confidence. You may be afraid to respond to a question from a superior. You may be afraid to speak up in a meeting even though you know you have the most current and relevant information. You might say no to a project or presentation for fear of not being able to manage it. You may have a destructive inner dialogue that makes you feel you are not good enough. If any of this applies, perhaps reflecting on your self-confidence would be helpful for you.

Increasing your self-confidence starts by developing self-awareness about your fears and what they show you about your self-confidence.  

Ask yourself:

  • How self-confident are you?
  • How do you know?
  • What has contributed to giving you the self-confidence you have or don’t have?
  • How does it show up or not show up?
  • In what situations are you self-confident and in which situations are you not self-confident? Why or why not?
  • How do you view yourself generally, in a positive or negative way?  What does your inner dialogue sound like?
  • How does your level of self-confidence affect your behavior?

Write down your responses and again a little later, if you think of something new.

After building your own self-awareness and you find that you want to increase your self-confidence try one or more these simple exercises:

  1. Keep a journal for a while where you write about situations where you demonstrated self-confidence. What was it that happened? Where did your confidence come from? What can you learn from that situation?
  2. Take a stand for something you believe in. This can be in any small or large capacity, for example: sharing your opinion in a meeting, disagreeing with a friend, choosing to support a cause, etc.  
  3.  Put yourself outside your comfort zone, a little. Not too much. Give yourself a challenge that will help grow and stretch you without being too much to handle.
  4. After a month or so, revisit your self-awareness and notice if you have developed your self-confidence and what you want to work on next. What works for you and what doesn’t?